How parents may help create their own little narcissists

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2015-03/osu-hpm030515.php

Public Release: 9-Mar-2015
Ohio State University

Children whose parents think they're God's gift to the world do tend to outshine their peers - in narcissism.

In a study that aimed to find the origins of narcissism, researchers surveyed parents and their children four times over one-and-a-half years to see if they could identify which factors led children to have inflated views of themselves.

Results showed that parents who "overvalued" their children when the study began ended up with children who scored higher on tests of narcissism later on.

Overvalued children were described by their parents in surveys as "more special than other children" and as kids who "deserve something extra in life," for example.

"Children believe it when their parents tell them that they are more special than others. That may not be good for them or for society," said Brad Bushman, co-author of the study and professor of communication and psychology at The Ohio State University.

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Brummelman said that parents with the best of intentions may overvalue their children, thinking that will help boost their self-esteem.

"Rather than raising self-esteem, overvaluing practices may inadvertently raise levels of narcissism," Brummelman said.

While the dangers of narcissism are well known, its origins are not, according to Bushman. This is the first prospective study to see how narcissism develops over time.

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Children were measured for levels of both narcissism and self-esteem. While many people believe narcissism is just self-esteem on steroids, that is not true, according to the researchers.

In this study, children with high self-esteem, rather than seeing themselves as more special than others, agreed with statements that suggested they were happy with themselves as a person and liked the kind of person they were.

"People with high self-esteem think they're as good as others, whereas narcissists think they're better than others," Bushman said.

Self-esteem and narcissism also develop in different ways, the study found.

While parental overvaluation was associated with higher levels of child narcissism over time, it was not associated with more self-esteem. In contrast, parents who showed more emotional warmth did have children with higher self-esteem over time. Parental warmth was not associated with narcissism.

"Overvaluation predicted narcissism, not self-esteem, whereas warmth predicted self-esteem, not narcissism," Bushman said.

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But the researchers noted that parental overvaluation is not the only cause of narcissism in children. Like other personality traits, it is partly the result of genetics and the temperamental traits of the children themselves.

"Some children may be more likely than others to become narcissistic when their parents overvalue them," Bushman said.

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