'Terrible twos' not inevitable

https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2020-05/uoc-tn050620.php

News Release 6-May-2020
University of Cambridge

Parents should not feel pressured to make their young children undertake structured learning or achieve specific tasks, particularly during lockdown. A new study of children under the age of two has found that parents who take a more flexible approach to their child's learning can - for children who were easy babies - minimise behavioural problems during toddlerhood.

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Many toddlers have temper tantrums and exhibit frustration and defiant behaviour, in what is commonly known as the 'terrible twos'. Unfortunately, the autonomy support strategy isn't equally effective for all children: those born with a more irritable temperament are still more likely to be difficult toddlers.

Parenting must be tailored according to the child, say the researchers. Parents who don't remember their baby having an easy temperament should let go of the idea of achieving specific goals during play, and allow their children to develop at their own pace.

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